Several decades ago, and especially in the Iranian culture, it was customary that the parents of the bride and groom make all decisions including purchase of rings and wedding attire, choosing a venue and even honeymoon location.  Bride and groom only had to show up and say “yes”!  Today, this custom has evolved and most decisions are made by the couple themselves.  If you are getting married in the U.S. there are a few things to consider!  

Today, this custom has evolved and most decisions are made by the couple themselves.  If you are getting married in the U.S. there are a few things to consider!  
irst of all, it’s important to make the distinction between getting married and having a wedding.  Marriage (consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law) is a personal and legal contract shared privately or with a small group of people to bind the union of two individuals.  A wedding is when you decide to hold festivities to celebrate your union with a larger group of people!

After you’ve announced your engagement, you can begin to consider what type of a wedding you would like to have.  With your fiancé, answer the following questions:
1.  What style wedding do we want (formal, semi-formal, casual, destination, etc.)
2.  How many people will we have at our wedding?
3.  What is our budget?
4.  What season would we like to have the wedding at?
5.  What is your ideal location/venue (hotel, winery, historic home, natural setting, etc.)
6.  What vendors/professional do you need to hire:  Officiant, florist, musician/DJ, photographer, videographer, catering, cake, drinks, etc.
7.  What kind of attire do we want to get (dress, tuxedo, etc.)
8.  Will you have a bridal party (bridesmaids, groomsmen, ring bearer, flower girl, etc.).

This is a general and preliminary list to consider!  Please stay tuned for future articles on each of these topics, and for questions or referrals to wedding professionals, please contact nilou@weddingvowsbynilou.com.